Last week a friend posted on their facebook status asking that if someone says they are sorry does this right the wrong? They happen to be referring to a package that did not get delivered when it was supposed to and when the company was contacted the lady on the phone said she was sorry but offered no resolution to the problem. On a deeper level if someone repeatedly says they are sorry but keeps hurting you in the same way does it make it okay, or does it negate what the sorry is supposed to mean?
I believe if someone has hurt you that they can be forgiven if they truly feel regret and remorse about their actions. I also feel that by granting them forgiveness does not give them the right to repeat their actions and expect that an “I’m sorry” is going to once again right the same wrong. There are some actions that I feel are unforgivable, such as murder, rape, molestation, and animal abuse, amongst other things. As for the forgetting part, I don’t think that you ever really forget, but it is possible to forgive and move on without dwelling on the past.
In my own life I have been able to forgive because I saw genuine remorse and regret in the people wanting forgiveness. I also needed to move past all the hurt and pain associated with the past and with forgiveness I was able to do that for myself. If you can forgive someone it not only helps them but can also help you ease your own pain associated with the given situation. Unfortunately in life there are also some people who hurt others and don’t feel bad, in these situations sometimes it’s better to disconnect yourself from them and move on without these people in your life.
Everything that occurs in life, good or bad, has shaped the people we become in the present. I believe everything that has happened in my past has led me down the path to become the person I am today, whom I happen to like very much. The past will always remain unchanged but we can choose to build a better future from our experiences.
Has someone hurt or done something to you and wanted forgiveness? Were you able to forgive and forget?
